The Masculinity of today is in crisis.

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“Men are the perpetrators.
The tyrants of women and of the world.
There is too much masculine energy.”

Too many men today feel so much fear, that they just obey.

They obey their women, their bosses, their own teams, their clients, even their children.

But most of them will disagree.

“I’m just being nice.”

A simple exercise that you can do on your own and grow a lot.

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Are you overthinking what’s the right thing to say?
That’s the best way to say something weird or nothing at all.

No one wants to be judged.

Fear of being judged by others after saying something weird is absolutely normal

But whether you’re on a date, on stage or in your social circle, the principle remains the same:

The truth is, though, that it’s not the people in the audience (or a girl) who’s judging you.

The truth is, though, that it’s not the people in the audience (or a girl) who’s judging you…

…but you.
You’re your own worst judge…

Most men will never make it to the final stage.

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It’s no wonder that men love women.

Men experiencing the radiance of feminine beauty are speechless.

Feminine loving vulnerability makes every man want to protect, care and cherish what he witnesses.

A beautiful woman, certain about who she in her feminine is incredibly attractive, but equally scary for an immature man.

So how do we, men, relate to women during our journey through life?

Based on where you are in your journey, it’s very likely that your relationship with women is described by one of these stages.

1. THE ONE AND THE ONLY: First stage.

Man believes, that somewhere in the world there is one woman and one…

If you’re hesitating with the answer, you’re probably sabotaging your success.

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“Would you rather achieve your goals or be happy?”

Recently I’ve asked this question to one of my clients.
He was thinking.


He really took his time.

“I would…”

I could feel the intensity of his thinking.

“I think I would rather achieve my goals.”

He said, hesitantly.


I asked.


The thinking started again and took a really long time.
Eventually, he said something so complicated that not even he could repeat what he said.

Isn’t it ridiculous?
Isn’t it bizarre, to even think about this question?
I believe it absolutely is.

“Would you rather achieve your…

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If I ask you: “Why do you always have to screw up?” and you’re 5 years old, you’re screwed.

We all have heard these as kids:
“What’s wrong with you?”,
“Why don’t you ever listen to me?”,
“Why don’t you respect me?”,

These questions never feel good.

But when you’re a 5-year-old and you don’t have critical reasoning ability, these questions can a lot of harm.

As a child, you will look for answers and whatever you answer will make you feel really bad.

Specifically — guilty.

Just read the question and think about how to answer it and see it for yourself.

Busting the greatest myth of our times in less than 2 minutes.

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Truth hurts, right?
No, it doesn’t.

So what is that thing that hurts then?

The pain of the truth doesn’t come from the truth itself, but from realizing the lie, that’s been there the whole time.

That’s why the longer you postpone sharing the truth, the more it “hurts”.

The more it shakes your ground.
The more it breaks your world.
The more it disrupts.

Regular cheating on your wife 10 years ago?
Stole some big money from your ex-boss?
Had an unacceptable sexual fantasy when you were 13?

…you better take that to the grave.

Lying is more comfortable.

There is no tension.
It’s fear-driven. …

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Like everything in the physical world — human Love also has a dualistic nature.

Godly love is universal.
It’s a perfect acceptance and seeing the beauty & the truth in everything that exists.

Human love is dualistic.
It has its masculine and feminine poles.

Feminine love is the love of the mother.

Feminine love is the one we all know as love — beautiful, nurturing, heart-warming. It’s the hugs, kisses, warmth in the chest area, and a sense of beauty and belonging.

It’s the feeling of being nurtured. It’s the emotion of feeling safe in the hug. It’s the “everything is all right” feeling. It’s tender and soft.

The masculine love is different, though.

Masculine love is the love of the father.

In one word, masculine love is the Truth.

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And it’s also Elvis and Rolling Stones.

The Universe is holographic.
Each part is a reflection of the sum and the sum is a reflection of each individual part.

The Heart and Cock of Everything That Exists

Your body has a cock and a heart, each of them giving you a different kind of energy.
Heart is the sensitive, feeling, feminine part of you.
Cock is the penetrative, go-for-it, masculine part of you.

Metaphorically, your family as a unit also has a heart and a cock.
Heart is the mother — nurturing and sensitive love.
Cock is the father — that’s the tough and penetrative love.

The nation has a heart and a cock energy.

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And why most people struggle with it.

We all know that guy.

“I’m trying to find my passion.”

He heard in a speech, that being passionate was the key to business success.
He read on a dating website, that being passionate about his purpose will make him more masculine and attractive for women.
He knows passion from sex and he feels like it’s the right thing.

When he finds it, everything will change!

So he searches and searches and searches:

“How do I find my passion?”

he keeps asking himself every day.
And that b*tch just won’t reveal itself.

Passion should come up naturally, right?

It should…

Staring dad meme from Hipwallpaper.

Discover the reason why you shouldn’t be!

I used to have an obsessive fear of being weird.

When I was 26, I actually came to the therapist for the first time with a clear intent: to assure myself, that I’m normal.

This is not a joke!

When the therapist asked me what I came with I said:

“Well, I need you to tell me one thing.

I speak 5 languages, I played guitar professionally, I teach Cuban salsa, I run a successful educational NGO and work in one of the most competitive industries in the world — but I still feel like I’m never enough.

I constantly…

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